Delayed Friendship

Three friends. One table filled with glasses and empty plates. Three tired and guilty smiles.

Fifteen years of plans and finally they had found the time to have this reunion. They had consciously put away their phones in their designer purses to ensure the one hour was spent with each other and not instagramming food photos and selfies titled ‘yummy lunch catching up with my forevers.’

Or wasted in whatsapping their husbands – ‘did Soniya go for class’ ‘did Fahad eat his vegetables’ ‘did you take Scooby to the vet’ – instructions that had already been repeated thrice, written down on post-its and stuck on refrigerators and mirrors, and repeated to the children so they would remember in case the husbands forgot.

It was one hour – surely their homes wouldn’t implode if they left for an hour?

The plan had been to spend that hour talking about home and careers, reminisce about childhood and maybe compare who had the smartest or the most creative child. But as is the nature of plans…

After the hugs, squeals, oh my gods, we should have done this befores, I can’t believe it has been so longs, ordering the food and drinks, an eerie silence had descended on the trio. It was as if they had so much catching up to do, it didn’t seem worth the effort.

And then the empty space was suddenly weighing down with all the cancelled plans, broken promises and concealed envy. They could feel the weight of it, as surely as they could feel their growing age.

“What happened to us?” One of them was brave enough to break the silence. Maybe it wasn’t bravery at all but a fear of that accusing silence.

“We stopped trying.” Replied the other. Did they? Or was it just one of those excuses, used as swiftly and as conveniently as ‘my child is sick’ to get out of a social engagement?

“Does it matter? We are here now. Let’s just be here.” A sound piece of advice. But the weight…the silence…

“Why did this take so long?” Ah that was the million dollar question, wasn’t it.

They were thankful when the drinks arrived. Now they had something to do with their hands. The alcohol loosened the tongues, the weight became easier to bear, the silence less accusing.

But the arrival of food halted the stilted conversation. Now the air was filled with clinking glasses and cutlery, with murmured ‘could you pass me the’ ‘do you want the’ ‘can I finish the.’

“I feel like everyone is staring at us, wondering why we aren’t talking.” Said one, in another brave attempt to bridge the chasm between the friends she had thought she’d never be able to live without.

“Things change, don’t they?” Sighed the other, making an excellent and yet useless observation. Is that all this luncheon was going to accomplish? Bad conversation and pointless observations?

“Well one thing hasn’t.” She wondered if she should shine a ray of hope on this rather dismal forty-five minutes. When no one objected, she continued, “You have eaten more than you should, you want dessert as always and we still ordered only two dishes so…”

“So we could share!”

And just like that their plan to spend one hour failed. As the shared nostalgia opened the floodgates, the three friends ended up sitting at their table for hours, chatting, laughing and making more promises – promises which they swore they’d not break this time.

24 responses to “Delayed Friendship”

  1. Starting with our first job and then marriage and family, somewhere the friendships and priorities take a different direction altogether and this is not something for a particular gender but in some cases for either of them… Takes a great deal and effort to rekindle those friendships and also for partners to feel inclusive of such friendships as the friendship has been long-lost.. Beautifully written Suchita… Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Very true Srikanth. Which is why in our group, the first one who got married, she told us all that this changes nothing and she set the precedence for the rest. Thank you.

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      1. True, having a open conversation and with wavelength matching things get different and better

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  2. One feels nostalgic when meet a long lost friend , I have experienced this a few times , it’s such a beautiful feeling ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Oh yes. Friends and I have our weekly calls and yet every time I see them on the screen it feels like we haven’t met in ages and yet like we met only yesterday ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Such a lovely write up. I could imagine myself with my friends having similar conversation and awkwardness as we haven’t met in years

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    1. Glad you liked it Rakhi.

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  4. To be honest, I really love your posts. And especially this one that took me back to my dates with my besties. Hope that time comes back soon.

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    1. Thanks Parul. I miss meeting my besties too and we are all hoping we get to meet physically soon ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. Radhika Acharya Avatar
    Radhika Acharya

    Suchita, Suchita, Suchita……
    You never fail with your posts. Have always been a fan although i don’t leave comments as i know I should!
    Loved this ‘catching up with friends’ story.

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    1. You are so very kind Radhika. Thanks much ๐Ÿ˜€

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  6. Dr Bushra Allaboutthewoman Avatar
    Dr Bushra Allaboutthewoman

    Spending time with school friends is still a nostalgia for me. But whenever we meet we don’t know to start the formal or informal. That’s very intriguing read and does truly happen inreal life.

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    1. The beginning awkwardness happens all the time. Thanks Bushra.

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  7. Doctor mommy Avatar
    Doctor mommy

    I was waiting to come across your articles in the reading list and boy it was worth the wait. The way you have 4 speakers in the post, the narrator and the 3 friends is seemlessly portrayed. I didnt feel like i was reading rather i was imagining. You have an art in you๐ŸŽจ๐ŸŽจ๐ŸŽจ

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    1. Awe that is so sweet of you! Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. How beautiful this was. Reminds me of my four besties, we barely get to meet but when we do…time flies and we are never short of topics ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Time often flies when you’re with friends no? Thanks Kavita.

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  9. So amazingly written Suchitaji, I’ve been in such situations quite a few times especially with school friends and could relate to it. I hope jab we meet, it’s much more halla gulla and khaana peena…

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    1. As long as you do the halla gulla and I can do the khaana peena, we’ll be okay ๐Ÿ˜€ Thanks Atul!

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  10. Ahhhhh! Apart from having kids, I think I’m almost already here! Loved this post so much. You have such a great observational skill. Loved it ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Frankly this was a discovery for me too. I had no idea I had written something this good! Thanks Ramya.

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  11. What a lovely story, Suchita. Thoughtful and very well written.

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    1. Thanks so much Tarang ๐Ÿ™‚

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